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By Ginger Lane

Words are full of power! They are thoughts manifested into reality. When we open our mouths and speak, they can lift someone up or bring them down so we have to be careful what we say AND what we hear.

I had a friend that was becoming increasingly dissatisfied with her marriage. The more she told me about her situation, which I thought really wasn’t bad; I realized that her story always included what she and another friend had discussed. They were having sessions of ‘male bashing’ and both their husbands were getting the short end of the stick. As soon as I told her I wouldn’t add flame to the fire and gave her my thoughts about what was happening, she agreed. Strangely, when she cut off the negative influence she was getting, her marriage improved.

I’m not sure what part of human nature is fueled by words, but they are infectious. If you are constantly talking about things that are making you unhappy, trust me, you will become even more so.

Sure, there are unpleasant things in everyone’s world, but concentrate your efforts on the solution, not the problem. If there is no solution, mentally move on.

Don’t listen to negative input. We have several websites and are constantly posting new information on it. Everything you design must be of a certain quality or it will not look good. Sandee Farmer, our editor, took a computer class and was taught the acronym GIGO. It means garbage in, garbage out. It’s the same thing with our minds, negative in, negative out OR positive in, positive out.

My friends and family have lovingly joked with me about my cooking. And, I probably joke about it more than anyone. However, I’ve told myself for so long that I am a bad cook; it is so embedded in my mind that I’m now afraid to serve anything. I was having some friends over for Bible study and thought about making some hot chocolate. I started to think that it wouldn’t be good and so I squashed that idea. Really? Hot chocolate? And, that is when I decided to stop making a joke of my cooking. I’ve had great fun with it for years, but now my own words have stopped me from doing something that I would enjoy.

Have you ever disliked someone you never met? I’ve had friends tell me about someone in their family and even though I never met them, I despised them. And, that can be hard when you voice your opinion of the relative and your friend is shocked and takes up for them. The only reason you don’t like them in the first place is because of what you have been told!

People that work together at a great job can be lead astray with one bad apple. Break time and one person starts mouthing about how this is unfair and how things should be better and how the company should be run. Before you know it, you have a whole crew of unhappy employees. One bad apple spoils the whole barrel.

So, when you have conversations with yourself or others, be careful what you say and what you allow yourself to hear. Repeat the good stuff often and dismiss the bad quickly. You are the sum of your thoughts, words and actions.

The Pledge of Allegiance was written in 1892. We’ve recited it hundreds of times throughout our lives and so to us, it is a reality. When you repeat words over and over, they will become the truth.

"I pledge allegiance to the Flag of the United States of America, and to the Republic for which it stands, one Nation under God, indivisible, with liberty and justice for all."

                Change your life with the language you use and remember what your mom told you.

                   “If you don’t have anything good to say about someone, hush your mouth!”